Friday, July 8, 2011

All Izz Well...2

Every morning I get up and decide.

‘Today I will stay happy.’

On most of the days, I am happy. But as a matter of fact, there are days when I do not live up to my expectations. And that is because; my happiness is related to the happiness of few more persons. So today, I take the pain to educate all these ignorant people about the simple fact in life that, ‘Situations may not be at your control, but staying happy is completely your choice.’ 

Let us understand this by using Stephen Covey’s 90/10 principle.

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. We cannot escape getting drenched or falling in a ditch while going to office. We cannot escape getting stuck in a traffic jam. We cannot sometimes escape bird shit falling over us. (My bird shitting accident rate is 3 Nos. per year.) We sometimes also cannot escape our boss shitting on us. We cannot escape a flat tyre, a common cold, an ATM failure or a pimple. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. We determine the other 90% by our reaction. You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let’s take an example.

Your boss is shouting at you for no genuine reasons.

Reaction 1: You start an argument, trying to justify your point. You forget that your boss is an ass. You come to your desk. You punch over your workstation. The coffee spills over important documents. You shout at the housekeeping boys. (Next time, they spit on the coffee before they bring it for you.) You leave from office. You shout at the driver for traffic jam. Your roommate has arranged a surprise for you. You shout at him too. He does not allow you to have pleasure with him that night.

Reaction 2: Graciously you accept whatever your boss says. You come back to your desk. You make a cartoon of your boss and upload it on Facebook. (There are many other ways too:Fire your boss.)You get numerous funny comments on it. All your friends curse your boss together. You show the cartoon to the housekeeping staff as well. They sympathize you. You feel nice. You leave office, enjoy the drive. You get stuck in a traffic jam. You enjoy Facebook. You reciprocate the surprise arranged by your roommate. And you spend the night with pleasure, with your roommate.

Always try to make yourself believe that, things could have been even worse than they are. Your daughter has failed in exams. You can choose to curse her, shout at her and cut down her pocket money. Or you can choose to believe that things could have been even worse. She could have been addicted to smoking, drinking, drugs, boyfriends, had sex with a stranger and get pregnant and stolen all your money and gave it to the stranger. You can choose to encourage her or promise her an i-phone. She can do exceptionally well in her exams next time.

Never let the ‘It’s okay’ attitude die within you. Always remember, life is what we make it. At every point of your life, you will have only two options. Either you react with a smile or you react with a frown.
The choice is yours. Learn to say.